“In times of great turmoil and confusion you must turn to somebody who has found some clarity and serenity for guidance. I may be that person for you.”
We’ve mastered matter but not what matters
In today’s world, we are so busy making a living and time goes by so fast that we often forget what matters most: How we are and exist in this world. We get so caught up in achieving and becoming that we sometimes forget our own family, and fail to invest time and resources where it is most gratifying: in our marriage. Focusing most of our energy in the realm of doing and being mostly concerned with survival, we neglect the people that are closest to us, namely our spouse and children.
When a marriage is failing due to a lack of attention and care, the whole family unavoidably suffers. When the family unit suffers, all the individuals who are part of that family are negatively impacted. When the marriage falls apart and the family unit disintegrates, parents often resort to addictions of any kind to cope with the guilt that weighs on their conscience. This is where I come in!
“Being a generalist, I wear different hats and play different counselling roles, including that of marriage counsellor, family therapist, addictions counsellor, and psychotherapist. As advertised on Psychology Today, I specialize in marriage and family counselling.”
My name is Justin-Claude Dumont. I have a bachelor of science in neuropsychology (BSc) and a master of arts in counselling psychology (MA). I am an accredited Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC)*1 through the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association. I practice psychotherapy*2 from a scientific and experiential perspective. Although my work is underpinned by a humanistic and client-centered approach, I believe in the principles of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Narrative Therapy (NT) and often incorporate these techniques in our sessions.
Though I’m a generalist and work with clients aged 13 to 65 years old having a wide variety of issues, I specialize today in marriage counselling and family counselling. I meet with couples to work on their marriages for different reasons, but most commonly to improve communication, to express unspoken rules and unconscious role expectations, to resolve issues around money, parenting and/or intimacy, to deal with extended family relationships problems, and to work through trust issues. I work with families to improve family members relationship, to work through family issues, for everybody to feel safe to express their opinions, for parents to stop being overbearing, and for children to be more respectful of their parents; in short, to create a more harmonious family dynamic for all.
Having observed that Parent-Children relationships are deeply affected by the parental escape mechanism of choice and that a marriage is doomed to fail unless the escape is broken, I also specialize in the treatment of addictions (addictions counsellor).
Addictions is a way to cope with the pain of not being right with oneself and others
The word addiction has a strong negative connotation. Addictions are something we have collectively come to label and see as wrong. But the fact of the matter is that an addiction is anything I use to avoid facing me, to avoid coming to terms with what is – my reality as it exists independent of me. In this context, an addiction is anything that I use as a distraction, as a kind of avoidance behavior. From this perspective, addictions aren’t necessarily bad; they’re just means to an end, and the end is escape. What do human beings generally want to escape from? Pain. So our inability to be with pain and to deal with its root fear is what makes addictions so attractive.
When trapped in a cycle of addictions, the relationship between spouses usually disintegrates and goes from bad to worst in a relatively short amount of time. It is actually hard to say which comes first and what causes the pain we hopelessly try to escape with addictions: Is it the marital problems, the family issues, past unresolved relationship issues, one’s own conditioning, or the addictions problem? One thing for sure is that when emotions run high, both spouses involved in the marriage cannot see things clearly, and may need extra guidance to find their way back. In instances such as this, or in less dire circumstances, counselling and can help!
A world in movement; an evolving psychology
The field of psychology today is undergoing a major revolution: psychotherapists and counsellors worldwide have had to adjust to technological advances and collapsing boundaries. The world as we know it today is significantly different than that of 20 years ago: Advances in communication, progress in spatial exploration, and the advent of the web have dissolved boundaries and made our planet feel smaller than ever.
Clinging unto the past with all their might, many counsellor and psychotherapist are afraid of such changes. These changes affect the way we relate with each other today, therefore, they have had major repercussions for the field of psychology, especially in the way therapy is carried out. Today, nearly everyone has a cellphone and is connected to the web. Coincidentally, the demand for telecounselling and web counselling has risen exponentially in the past 10 years alone.
In order to meet the growing demand for distance therapy, I offer sessions over the phone and meet with clients on the web using a secure video connection. Even though I mostly meet with people from my Winnipeg office, all of my services are offered online, including substance abuse counselling. In fact, I may be one of the only Canadian counsellor and psychotherapist out there offering marriage counselling and family counselling over the phone or on the web.
So, wherever members of your family may reside in the world or the location of your spouse’s next business trip, there is no more excuses to delay what should have been done a long time ago. Whether you seek counselling to improve your marriage or to restore your family dynamic, give me a call or book an appointment today. Give counselling a try; it can literally change your life and that of your loved ones!